What NOT to Put in Your Facebook Profile…

Like millions and millions of people around the world, you probably have at least one profile on a social networking site, such as Facebook, MySpace or LinkedIn.  Or, if you don’t have a profile on one of these sites, you certainly must be familiar with the buzz surrounding Web 2.0 and new media and all that fun stuff.

However, nowadays, our personal spaces on social networking sites are being invaded by work.  For example, you’re probably friends with a lot of your coworkers, or even bosses (I’m friends with three levels of bosses and former bosses on Facebook and LinkedIn…seriously).  You might even be in a few groups that are related to your company or its products.  Let’s face it:  the line between work and personal life is becoming almost nonexistent when it comes to social networking.

That being said…be sure not to make any of these mistakes in your profile.  If you do…then wow.

Rule #1:  Don’t Put Shady Things in Your Interests / Activities:

Can’t tell you how many times I’ve come across violations of this rule while religiously checking out my “friends’ ” profiles (I use quotes because we all know that approximately 75% of our so-called friends on Facebook and MySpace are casual acquaintances or people we haven’t even met).  There are always a few people who aren’t the brightest bulbs – or who think they’re really cool – and put really loser-esque things in their interests and activities.  Look at your list of friends – I’ll bet you that at least a dozen of them have “sex” in their activities or interests.  To paraphrase Rose on the Golden Girls “It was always my understanding that people who talk about it all the time don’t do it very often.”  And do you really want your boss reading that you’re a nympho?  Or that weird guy who sits in the cubicle next to you who sent you that friend request last week?  Ewww.  I 100% guarantee that no one wants to know if you’re doing that.  I also 100% guarantee that you won’t be doing that more often if you put it in your Facebook / MySpace interests.  And, I also 100% guarantee that it’s pretty much a given that you would enjoy such an activity.  Duh.  And if you put it in your profile just to be funny, news flash – it’s not.

There are probably still others on your list of friends who have “smoking boles,” “toking,” “getting high” or some other pot-related phrase in their interests.  This is also not recommended for coming across as a professional to your employer…for obvious reasons.  If you do that, that’s great for you.  I don’t think the rest of Facebook really cares.  Unless you’re looking for smoking buddies or a supplier or something?  I don’t know.  This is also probably not funny to your boss, who might be checking out your profile.  Putting this in your interests might cause colleagues to raise their eyebrows every time your eyes are bloodshot, and when you go out to your car during breaktime…

And finally, this one is probably in about 75% of college students’ / recent graduates’ profiles:  getting drunk.  Yes, I went to college and I’m well aware of what happens when class is over…or even while it’s in session.  I know it’s fun to go out and have drinks, and to party on weekends.  But if you’re an intern and are under 21, I’d leave it out of the profile.  Please note that the presence of this in your profile does NOT make you cool.  The ladies aren’t going to see this in there and throw themselves all over you.  Nope.  Anyway, since you’re in college, it’s pretty much implied that you could be drinking.  Do you really need to proclaim it to the world? 

By the way, I’d also recommend not joining fan pages / groups for these interests.  I noticed the sex fan page, for example.  Ummm yeahhh, I pretty much think that everybody on Facebook is an implied fan.

Rule #2:  Don’t Put Shady Pix Online

Seems obvious enough, and goes hand-in-hand with rule #1.  Too many people break this one, too.  I can’t tell you how many times I go online, and see that someone has posted some drinking album called “GeTTinG HaMMerED” or something to that effect (note the annoying use of alternating capital with lowercase letters that is likely in the name of the album).  These albums usually contain picture after picture of a bunch of co-eds hanging out at some generic, run-of-the-mill bar, which is probably sticky and smells like a mix of alcohol, too much cologne and sweat.  Okay, whatever, we all go out and hit up the bar once in a while.  But herein lies the issue:  when people have pix of them in bar doing such unprofessional things as licking people / objects, making lewd hand gestures, touching some guy’s butt or lifting up one’s shirt.  Yeahhhh.  I never really understood why people think that posting pictures of themselves looking like losers is cool.

Rule #3:  Don’t Put Stupid Things in Your Status

So it’s a really gorgeous Friday – the sun is shining, the birds are chirping and God knows you don’t want to wake up and go to work.  So, you call in “sick,” and play the big kid version of hooky.  Okay, we all need a personal day once in a while, as to avoid going insane because of too much work.  Understood.  However, the dumb part of this comes when people put this in their status messages, or post this on friends’ walls.  It’s probably not a good idea to feature “skipping out of work for the day” as your status message, especially when you’re friends with people from your office, and/or boss.  It is also not good to post on a friend’s wall that “we should grab drinks because I’m cutting work today.”  Also, bear in mind that you should not post any pictures from your “sick day” excursion.  Just a thought.

You might be thinking, “It’s my personal life, I can do what I want, work shouldn’t be checking up on me.”  And I’d agree with you – this is probably true.  But since employers have been known to check your social networking profile, I’d be smart about this, folks.  Also take note that the opposite principle holds true:  you don’t have to overly kiss corporate butt and put “workin’ for the man,” “going to the office” and “working on weekends” in your interests.  😛

Corporate Word of the Week:

“The messaging ball is bouncing” – Overheard on one of the many conference calls that take up approximately 30% of my work week.  This is a perfect example of a work metaphor going too far…and becoming convoluted in meaning.  Corporate messaging is not a ball.  And where exactly is it bouncing to?  You know when you’re doing karaoke, and the little ball bounces over the words?  Is that like this fabled messaging ball?  Or is the messaging ball more like playing hot potato, and you keep throwing it someone else so you don’t have to work on it?  Hmm…

How to Get Your Boss to Lay off the Layoffs

We’ve got some seriously trying economic times upon us right now, and it seems that all of Corporate America is  atwitter talking about layoffs and reorganizations of management and all of that fun stuff that translates into you not having a job.  Even here at IBM.  Eek.

You think your job is secure – you’re a great contributor, you’re always on time, and you get your work done quickly and efficiently.  However, one day, your boss makes a trip down to your office and gives you the gut-wrenching news that you’ve been laid off.  In the case of such an event occurring, I give you a number of options for what you can do.  Note that I tend to lay on the sarcasm and dry humor quite thickly… 😉

Blame:

Blame your performance on the project leader, or on one of your coworkers.  Mention that the team leader hasn’t been effective enough, or encouraging enough.  Say that if your coworkers were more productive, then you wouldn’t be in this position.  Get your boss to focus on someone else.  Hopefully he or she will be so busy thinking about all these people responsible for your getting fired, that the boss won’t even remember to fire you.

Rat out Others:

Another option is to suggest other people on your team to be fired instead of you.  You know that Joe on the team called in sick last week when he wasn’t really sick.  Cindy always comes in late, and leaves early.  You’re pretty sure that Jack hasn’t done jack to help boost company sales.  So, why should you get fired when there are at least a dozen more worthy candidates than you?  Suggest these other fireable people to the boss.  Maybe supplement your ideas with a PowerPoint presentation (with many fun pictures and clip-art graphics), and perhaps with a handy color-coded spreadsheet.  This should help your boss to see the error in his/her decision to fire you.

Playing the Guilt Card:

Your boss is telling you that you’re about to be fired.  You feel helpless, demeaned, useless, and afraid.  but don’t worry:  you still have the guilt card to play!  Tug on the boss’ heartstrings:  ask him if he remembers the time you covered for him when he wasn’t at that budget meeting because he wanted to spend an extra day on vacation in the Bahamas.  Ask her if she remembers that time you made that amazing slide deck for the Q1 marketing plans when she didn’t feel like doing it.  Mention how the company is your life, and how you’d absolutely die if you couldn’t come to the office every day and contribute to Company X’s year-to-year growth.  By the time you’re done, the boss will probably be teary-eyed, and will offer to be laid off instead of you.  Or, your boss will at least send a severance gift basket of sorts.

Throw in Some Personal Info:

Don’t be afraid to throw in some personal problems to build your case.  Mention that you just found out that your son needs braces.  Express your fears that your house will be a victim of foreclosure.  Show your grief that you don’t know how you’ll take care of your old, ailing mother.  Feel free to stretch the truth a bit.  Embellish by throwing in the fact that a family member might have some disease, and by freaking out at the fact that you could soon be living on the streets.  This will help to cement how truly un-fireable you are.

Threaten to Sue:

This option is truly a classic.  When talking with your boss, throw in some frightening, ominous words and phrases like “discrimination,” “favoritism,” and “unequal pay.”  Say that you’re pretty sure that your coworker of the opposite sex has been approached for more important assignments than you’ve been asked to do.  Mention that you’re pretty sure that Bob on the team gets more pay than you for doing the same work with the same experience.  Again, add in some fluff.  Speculate.  Nothing scares Big Business more than the word “lawsuit.”  After all, let’s not forget that suing is the American Way.

Of course, if none of this works, then your final option is to apply for other jobs, try your best to cut back on personal expenses, and to hope for the best.  Hopefully being laid off is a predicament that both you and I won’t be facing personally.  But, if you find yourself in that situation, remember that you have my “expert” help here in this blog post, as well as your own marketable skills and talent.  Moreso the latter.  😛

Corporate Word of the Week:

performant (adj.) – A business word typically used when one means “high-performance,” or “top-performing.”  Note that this word does not actually exist.

ex. – These software products are the performant technologies for the overarching brand.

The age-old question: career, family, or both?

So granted, I’m only 23 and have just entered the work force, and don’t have kids or anything (ha), but I still find myself struggling with a huge decision that I know is looming in the not-so-distant future:  career, family, or both?

Is this decision a polarized one, or can one find a fulfilling mix of both?  I’m hoping that the latter is true.  Today’s family sees much more equality in gender roles with who takes care of the kiddies, and who goes out and makes the money (thankfully).  But, nevertheless, it’s still a big issue for both parents to take into account.

Note that I definitely don’t knock what anyone else chooses to do – that’s his/her own decision.  This just represents the thoughts I’m wrestling with…

To me, the thought of both parents holding down full-time day jobs, and then going home to young children at night seems quite daunting.  And, do I really want to have children be in daycare all day, while the parents are at work?  Maybe both parents can work part time?  Or, one works part time, the other works full time?  Something like that?

Some anecdotes I’ve heard:

1.  One day, over the summer, I overheard someone at work talking on the phone about his/her children (who were at daycare)…and didn’t know what day they started school!  This person really had no idea.  Do I really want this to be me in x number of years?  Do I want to be so immersed in my career that I have no clue when my kids are going back to school? Hmm…

2.  Another time, just recently, I was chatting with someone at the office who just had a baby 6 months ago.  This person said (and I quote), “Now with the baby, it’s like, it’s 6 o’clock and I have to get going early to get home!”  No joke, this was a serious statement.  If 6 p.m. is leaving early, I don’t want to know what leaving late is…

Okay, so granted, I don’t know the full story about these people or how it is in their homes, but it really makes me question if you can be a workaholic and a parent, and have neither sphere of life suffer.  Also, I know that IBM is really flexible when it comes to the work / home balance, so aren’t people taking advantage of that?

Now, on the opposite end of the spectrum, I (or my soon-to-be-husband) could stay at home with the kids all day.  But then, what do you do when the kids go to school, you have nothing to do with yourself all day, and you have no career to fall back on?

I don’t think I want that, either.

Is it possible to work part-time, so that you can have the best of both?  You still have the job to be self-fulfilled, yet you’re not so pressed for time that you can’t devote yourself to your family.  I know that IBM has job share that means two people can work part time and split the work of a full-time job, and that people can take advantage of working at home.  But would working part-time translate to lack of career devotion to an employer?  Would working at home blur the line between work and family?  Would both parents working constantly hurt my familial relationships, and psychologically mess my kids up and make them become detached or something?  Will they become closer to babysitters and nannies rather than their own parents?

Lots to consider.  But at least I can put off making this difficult decision for a decent number of years yet… 🙂

Corporate Word of the Week:

Byliner (n.)– A non-existent term that is erroneously used when one really means “byline article.”

ex. – We should write a byliner under the executive’s name surrounding the new service we’re offering.